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She wants instant gratification even though we've exchanged only a few words online. But in the modern world, in which the internet has become a vehicle for all manner of impropriety, she regards this kind of behaviour as perfectly acceptable. We have encountered one another via an internet dating service established for the sole purpose of enabling married people to commit adultery. It may sound like an unpleasant niche website for a handful of amoral people to whom wedding vows never meant very much.

But it claims to have more than , members in the UK. Many of them are middle-class, many have young children. And all of them are looking for an opportunity to betray their spouses. As a single man, I don't qualify. But I wanted to find out what sort of woman uses such a site. They are allowed to sign up for free as a way of ensuring the numbers are balanced between the sexes. I register, and enter the murky world of two-timing technology, taking note of the warning on the site: I wonder if anyone has ever read this, seen the wisdom of it and decided not to join.

I create my online "profile". Your picture can be viewed only if you give a password to the person with whom you are conversing. The idea is presumably to safeguard people from searching for their own spouses on the site - though how a husband would explain to his errant wife how he came to stumble across her picture on a website for adulterers, I don't know.

In order to fit in with the general ethos of the website I have invented a wife. Our relationship, I note, has suffered because we don't spend enough time together not surprising really, since she doesn't exist. After a quick search, I get the measure of the women on the site. Must be solvent," are also commonplace. It's not long before I receive a "virtual kiss". This is a way of paying someone a compliment without typing out the words.

It's the cyber equivalent of a wolf whistle. I'm surprised and unsettled by the forward tone of some of the material. One woman sends me a message heavily laden with sexual innuendo and I come to regard her as the mistress of the single entendre.

Determined to avoid the connotations, I reply: Another woman's first contact with me included a plan for a day out together, including visits to art galleries, a stroll round a park and then "a few hours under the duvet".

I didn't even know her name. I'm later propositioned by someone who tells me she has an hourglass figure. Her photograph reveals that the hour has stretched to 90 minutes.

I'm already starting to feel like I've had enough of this experiment. But if I'm going to find out what really makes these women tick, I need to leave the safety of the virtual world and see them for myself.

I arrange to meet a year-old mother of two who misses "romance and flirting", in a cafe in two days' time. She has declined to tell me her name, so I have to think of her as her web sobriquet.

This is how I find myself waiting for "Sophia Loren". She seems rather on edge and sends me a text message at the time we're due to meet asking why I'm using the website.

I reply, telling her to come over and ask me face to face. She turns up, a blonde with lipstick on her teeth. She looks furtively around and asks me if I'm nervous. I say that if she stops twitching, I'll calm down. There is tension in the air like North and South Korea coming together to hammer out a treaty. Suddenly the realisation of how odd it is to meet a stranger with the express intention of having an affair dawns on me.

Romeo and Juliet it is not. It's more like Alan Sugar interviewing an apprentice. But she is an old hand at this type of encounter and tells me she's met many men through the site, and that I was probably the only one who hadn't lied about my age.

After discussing how mundane marriages become and avoiding questions about my personal life, it's clear we're past our sell-by date after ten minutes, never mind ten years. There is zero chemistry. She doesn't want to discuss her husband, and I feel uneasy talking to her. Despite this, she still seems keen to flirt with me.

In the end, we agree to part and she wishes me luck and assures me I'll find the perfect paramour. So much for raging passion. This was like having a meeting with a new accountant with a helping of self-disgust thrown in.

Later on I'm perplexed when she sends me two flirty text messages. Reading between the lines, I suspect she wants to meet again. Sadly, I feel I have got all I want out of our brief relationship - two cups of coffee and a short conversation - and it's time to move on and find someone new. I feel sorry for her husband, presumably unaware that the mother of his children is pursuing cheap thrills with strangers. By now, I have been contacted by scores of women, so I arrange dates with the ones who are prepared to meet me in the next few days.

Jane is far more easy-going. Blonde, slim and relaxed, she has already told me by email that she's been married for ten years, has young children, time on her hands and wants to add a frisson of excitement to her life. We meet at a restaurant in central London, and I am waiting at the table when she arrives.

I stand up and we kiss on the cheek. She tells me without blinking that she has had one affair with a family friend and, although it didn't end badly, her appetite for adultery remains undimmed.

We spend an afternoon over lunch with a bottle of wine, and it's clear she is a relatively sophisticated woman. Though she declines to tell me what she does, she is evidently well informed and intelligent. At the end of our lunch, she tells me she'd like to see me again. I say I have to go, and she tells me she's sorry we have to leave it there. She then fixes me with a gaze and says she wishes we could go elsewhere.

I find myself thinking that if we did go to a hotel, if we undressed and went to bed, she would still return to her husband and children and the life she seems to find so unsatisfactory. How bleak and depressing. That night I'm back in front of the computer looking for my next date. So many women are eager to tell me they're "stuck in a rut" or "want someone to make them feel alive again". I find it amazing how many of them are willing to meet me after exchanging only a few messages.

I could be a serial killer and they would be none the wiser. Five married women send their mobile phone numbers to me without me even asking, disregarding the dangers. All I would have to do is ring at the wrong time to cause marital pandemonium.

A few offer little by way of enticement: It is striking that most of these woman have no interest in my domestic situation. They ignore the existence of my fictitious wife. They don't care that they are helping me cheat on her. In fact, they're encouraging it.

So much for the sisterhood. Only one profile I came across shows any concern. In it she cautions: It is a stab at morality, but it rings hollow, given that the whole point of what she's doing is deciding whether to meet a married man and cheat on her husband with him.

A few of my potential dalliances are cut short. Some days later, I've arranged to have another secret assignation, this time in a pub. Part II of II And when we would spend our weekends together, I would send him on his way and not think about him until the next time I needed to get laid, which was often. Each one brought different things. I did not feel anything for them other than lust and passion. One was a great kisser, another was great with his hands, the other was attentive and nurturing.

I could have awesome, quick and dirty sex with one if I was in the mood, or sweet and gentle, quiet sex with the one who was 15 years younger, or I could have what I imagine married sex to be with the other…It was always up to me, on my terms, and on my schedule. I think it's possible. I think the woman in question needs to be confident enough in herself and her life to be able to disconnect to make it worthwhile for both people.

Part I of II Okay. Thank you for writing about this. As always RG you make me smile with your insights and questions. I never thought of myself as the NSA type. I wanted to explore the world of sex and I wasn't in a relationship. I wanted to find out what it was like to be open and naughty and crazy and try new things. So what does one do when one isn't in a relationship and wants to find someone who will have really great sex with her?

Well, I found myself a lover. Someone I did not know. We worked it out. I went into it thinking it was going to be maybe just a one time thing, but it turned out to be so much more than that.

We were lovers for a year and a half. He was at that point, the best lover I had ever had. Having said that, I think my willingness to explore and to express myself gave me the freedom to allow myself to be damn good in bed as well.

He knew I was in it for me. He knew that when he was with me, it was about me. He was completely generous and wonderful and adored me. I'm glad you discussed the importance of "intention" as one of the rules. I should have read this article 14 years ago when I got involved with a guy that ended up not really wanting anything too serious.

If I would have been smart enough to ask before things got physical and way too complicated, I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I let myself get way too emotionally invested in the other person and the relationship. But it's a fantastic article as always. Lots of love for you! I've had 2 guys that have been fuck buddies, and oddly enough, they were guys that I used to have feelings for.

Then I saw that they were not boyfriend material, and still fun to drink and go home with. I would not recommend this for most people, but it was a lot of fun. I knew I could call them up if I was out and potentially have someone to go home with, or at least have fun with! It is great and we are great friends. Although yesterday he asked about taking things to another level…. Don't know what to do because things are great just the way they are. Happy Fucking is right! NSA FB's are great.

Over the past few years I have had a few FB's — we're truly friends and we like to fuck. We all know that so it keeps it cool — legit.

As long as you have the same intentions and all involved parties are clear on the relationship — fuck on. Stay horny my friends…. I've been told that I have sex like a man in the sense that I 1 don't get attached, 2 don't get clingy, and 3 don't expect it to lead to anything significant. Call me a freak, but it's definitely a lot more fun than getting involved in the drama and complications that most girls find themselves in. I have a few guys on rotation but they are all aware that I'm not being exclusive with any of them.

One demanded that we start a monogamous fuck buddy sort of deal but… in order to avoid the possibility of attachment… I had to kick that one to the curb. People can only really be fuck buddies without complication of they have absolutely NO interest in a relationship — and I find that not limiting yourself to just one buddy definitely helps avoid the risk of getting emotionally involved.

Don't forget to use a condom, people! Lisa, What if I am in a relationship and just want to learn your recipe for chocolate chip cookies? What do you call a relationship that people just have fun with each other without sex? Friendship does not work between a man and a woman unless one of them is extremelly unatractive.

I have had the same fuck buddy for 5 years. Is that normal to have a fuck buddy for that long? Why do guys do this? This was really helpful.

I initiated a NSA encounter off craigslist and picked a perfect guy. I posted the add, we exchanged emails and pics and decided to meet up. It was great sex and I was good to go and he inquired about meeting up again. My only issue is that this guy is a total catch so I was paranoid and nervous at first. I want to keep having NSA sex though so even though we hooked up 2 days ago and I want to have sex again….. I'm gonna hold off. What do you males think? Help a girl out!

Here's some advice from a female cougar: Back off him and stay in control. Post another ad for a younger, hotter version of him and then fuck THAT guy.

I don't really do it either, BUT there is a difference between having no feelings and not having relationship type feelings…. I have come around on this. I was married and thought fidelity was essential.

It is when you have children, stay together because they need a family. But if there are no kids involved, I say enjoy yourself. Don't be devastated if your guy 'cheats'. And enjoy yourself…Have a lover. I find that I feel much more secure in my relationship when I don't even think about what my partner does while he's out of my sight. I always know when he has strayed, you can practically smell it on them not literally but you girls know what I mean.

I just go off and do my own thing, then I figure, hey tat for tat, if you are good at enjoying sex then it doesn't matter who you are with as long as everyone wears a condom. I know this sounds awful, I would have disagreed not so long ago, but life is too short to be all Victorian about it. It's one of the worst ideas in the world honestly…. It's also very dehumanizing because part of what makes sex so great is those feelings where "no feelings" is technically impossible and makes you sound like your irresponsible… Seriously why go through all that shit when you can just wisely pick a man or a woman to be your girlfriend or boyfriend?

A realtionship will always have some kind of string attached to it if you actually believe they don't, you obviously think more with your fun parts then with your head.

It's counter-productive as hell too. People have no confidence these days…. I think the most important thing is keeping your intentions clear and if feelings do develop, you must admit it right away before it gets too intense.

My problem is that if you are just fuck buddies but you really enjoy hanging out with each other as well, then it can become even more difficult to remove emotions because you have friendship and sex combined. Maybe the friendship thing just doesn't work? Maybe if I fuck somebody regularly I shouldn't hang out with them?

Idk but it's way too confusing. This article epitomizes why feminism has been the most amazing gift ever for single dudes!

Now I get cheap easy access to women's bodies ad I get to hang with the bros whenever i want. I still get my career, hobbies and everyhting men had before feminism, but now I get to have lots of sex with lots of different women and dont hae to feel or do a dam thing for any of them! You ar eth ebest Lisa! I wish more women were like you! There are many of us and our numbers are growing! Thanks feminism, for allowing us to always upgrade to a bigger, longer, fatter, more skilled penis and dump fat, drama-wallowing manginas when they start to age and turn flaccid and whiny, which they always do.

Feminism is to thank for no more beer fetching, no more cleaning and cooking, no more bitching, no more fat guys, and greater access to bigger, better dick. And now, off to go get laid and do that faster and more successfully than James will tonight, because the market belongs to buyer who has the vagina. Hahaha, she said as she said goodbye to the 19 year old she just banged and calls "pizza" — because he's in, he fills he up, and then HE'S GONE.

A lot of you men don't realize some women would rather you begone after busting that nut. Who needs the awkwardness? This idea that no woman can do NSA sex makes me lawl. Had a couple of male buddies go all sharron stone. Ladies chose the right man… married… with as much to lose as you. Sex is the aim without emotional blackmail. You have control and you are queen of your time and emotions. He needs to know nothing he puts out and buggers off… you get a good nights sleep or hours of fun with yourself or someone else.

Never be afraid to say no… if you are move on quickly. Men need affection, let him get it from his mom. A fuck buddy situation works both ways equally right and no emotional involvement. If you promise never to give a shit stand by it otherwise they come on sites like this and bleet how badly off they were. They are a dick all you want or need in hopefully working order.

Just my opinion mwah peeps x. I love this article! I wish i've read this a year ago! I dont know if i should ignore him till he stops texting and calling me, should i unfriend him on FB without letting him know or should i let him know how i feel and tell him that i need to cut off any type of communication so that i can move on: I have read that women sometimes bond chemically with a guy by kissing, so I guess it just depends on the individual person and how she or he handles the situation.

I think I would have to like the person as it's not very safe to have sex with strangers these days. I guess sex could be compared to food. If you want a steady diet of the same foods all the time, then you would want a relationship. But if you wanted something different infrequently, you might want a NSA arrangement.

A few acquaintances have had NSA sex and also sex within a friendship. I think rules are good. I would be open to such a situation as I was reared to conform to the religious norm regarding sex and now I have found my own beliefs. You will hurt yourself emotionally if you are more involved in the arrangement compared to the other person, so take it easy and take care of yourself.

I have had people all my life tell me I have to get married or have a boyfriend who loves me, but maybe I'm not ready for that.

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