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I had answered an ad by a woman who said she was just looking for something casual. It seemed too good to be true, but she responded to me and we chatted via email and instant messenger for a week or so. We then exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone. She seemed cool and genuine. We agreed to meet for coffee and see where it went.
We had coffee and things were going fine. After the coffee we walked around a little and then ended up at her car where we made out a little bit. She lived nearby so we agreed that I would follow her in my car to her place.
At her place we were sitting on the couch and kissed a little more then she sprung the truth on me. She went into the kitchen and came out with a guy. She introduced him as her husband and said she wanted me to have sex with her while her husband watched. The husband assured me he would not get involved, he would sit on the other side of the room and watch.
I declined and headed for the door envisioning myself being chopped to pieces by these two. They then suggested that they have sex and I watch and jerk off.
When I was ready to explode I would shoot all over the wife's face. I again declined and left. The next day she called me and apologized. I told her in the future she might want to lead with what she is really looking for so as not to waste her or other people's time.
I have had a few people that I've told this story to tell me they would have banged her. She was pretty good looking, but as soon as that guy stepped out of the kitchen all I could envision was him sinking an axe into me as I thrust away on his wife. Maybe I have too overactive of an imagination. They went about it badly, but this kink isn't that uncommon. Very unlikely to be anything other than what they said it was. It isn't my thing so even if she had been up front about it I wouldn't have done it, but it seemed to me that it would be a good idea to tell people up front that is what you are looking for so you don't waste a lot of time on someone like me who will flip out.
Honestly I'm confused why she didn't. She still would've gotten plenty of takers and without the awkwardness you had to go through. I'm sure plenty of guys would have answered and been more than willing to do what she wanted without her having to play games and home for the best. See, the problem with having sex with CL people is the fact that they're willing to have sex with other random-ass people from CL.
I always imagine the possibility of someone with a knife on the other side who is going to chop my dick off. Not worth it for me! I have met a few girls in Craigslist. I don't like typing on my phone so these will be brief. First girl was the first and only black girl I ever slept with. I'm a white guy She wasn't exactly the best looking girl, but she was sweet and funny and nice and I later found out that she was a lesbian until shortly before posting the ad on CL to try to get back into guys.
So we met in public and hit it off and we went back to her place and boned. We hung out a few times after that but the most memorable was the time when she grabbed her moms adderall and we went berserk. We were eating it and crushing it up and snorting it and fucking like crazy and playing left 4 dead all night long.
At one point I thought it would be fun to snort a line off her ass and she thought it would be hilarious so I did and we laughed and laughed. It was a very fun night. I the end, she started to develop feelings that I didn't reciprocate so we broke it off. I guess that wasn't so brief.
If y'all are interested I have 3 more stories that are pretty wild to share if you want to hear them. I answered an ad that said she was looking for someone to spank her. She was a very pretty lady in her early 40s I was Aww yiss I figured what the hell, even if I don't get laid it will still be fun. Keep in mind that I had never tried anything like this before besides smacking a girls ass during normal sex.
My Roomie at the time was into bondage and spanking and stuff so I borrowed a paddle and a whip from him and also brought my studded leather belt.
You know the type with the 3 rows of pyramid studs that were popular with goths and skater kids in the s So we chat and meet up at this little Italian place to have a drink and break the ice.
And holy shit she was even hotter in person. So while we were having drinks she told me that she had a boyfriend that she had been with for 4 years but he wouldn't spank her and beat her the way she liked.
So I told her I was new at this and she laughed and told me to give it my best shot. We went across the street to a little cheap hotel and I proceded to spank her until my hand hurt so bad that I couldn't take another swing. But she wanted more. So I got out the belt and hit her with that too. I hit her way harder than I felt comfortable doing but she demanded more and harder so I complied.
Then we worked our way to the paddle and I finally found her limit. So we played with that for a while. Rubbing her pussy while I smacked her really got her going so we did that for a while. I jumped on top of her and did her like I had never done before.
I guess she really brought out the extremely rough and dominant and forceful sexual animal inside me because that was a turning point in my sexual style.
Before I was pretty vanilla in the bed. But after her I became a wrist grabbing, pin her down, pull her hair and leave red marks and bruises all over her kind of guy.
And apparently many girls like that ALOT. Which I will get to in the next 2 stories. I fell asleep early. The third one is the least interesting. We met at a bar in midtown and had some drinks and talked and laughed and talked and laughed. Finally we went back to her house and drank some more and got high and had a great time. Finally when I asked her if she wanted to "go upstairs". She said "oh my god I thought you would never ask!!
We fucked like crazy that night and then we started hanging out more and more and actually ended up dating for about 8 months. I know that one wasn't very interesting but she was an important part of my life. Next story is more like the other 2.
I'm a recovering meth addict, going on six years now, and doing that on craigslist was a low point for me. There's a secret cult of gay dudes who spent all of their days and nights making fake posts to try and give straight guys head and don't seem to respect the boundaries of individual's sexualities and seem to think they can "convert" straight guys or something. There's a specific guy in my area who's actively trying to get into my pants and seems to also know details about me, constantly citing where he's seen me lately as an attempt to scare me into letting him go down on me so he'll go away.
The converting the straight guy thing isn't an uncommon fantasy, but pretending to be girls just to get the reply is still an asshole thing to do.
I can understand the fantasy, but at some point guys like that should probably figure out that it isn't exactly a switch that can be flipped. I mean I wouldn't try to convince a gay guy to let a girl go down on him to turn him bi or straight, or try to convince a gay girl that she should let me eat her out because she "might like it.
I used it a couple of times. A few quick blowies, nothing more. A little over 6 months ago I met up with a girl on campus via craigslist.
We exchanged emails and agreed that we wanted to "cuddle. We watched Netflix Bojack Horseman and Arrested Development , ate Chinese food, and banged three times that night we walked all the way to my dorm and back to hers to get condoms.
Actually, yesterday was my first experience. I'd been craving a lesbian experience for quite a while, and the girl who messaged me was really literate and cute so I went ahead and met up with her. We got along pretty well, and she was a lot cuter in real life which was a huge plus.
When we got to her place it was a little awkward. I really enjoyed kissing her and cuddling her, but the sex was super lame. It felt kind of gross. I've never have had sex with a stranger, and to me it just doesn't feel right. I couldn't cum I was so anxious and shy around her. She didn't communicate well, so I had a hard time finding what she liked. I mean, everyone has their own thing. I went down on her and let me tell you, it was so fucking nasty.
I wretched two times but I don't think she noticed. I don't think she cleaned it well, and she shaved it so my mouth and pussy hurt afterward. I have a bigger appreciation for natural hair now. Anyway, in the end neither of us finished: I really wish we never did anything, and just kissed, cuddled, and talked. I don't know if that would have satisfied her, but it would me. Disabling my adblockers showed the content.
Guess I'll just have to flag things selectively if I want to see posts. There's only 3 postings and they're all hundreds of miles away. I went and checked and you're right. Obviously Craigslist knew illegal activity was going on for a long time, why didn't they do something about it? Like verify accounts and make you prove your identity before you can post? I guess Craig made his money and ran. That's like asking why boost Mobile didn't make sure everyone who bought a phone from a gas station wasn't a drug dealer first.
It's an unreasonable burden to place on them. Uh, no it wasn't for any illegal activity. Pretty terrible bill that does nothing to help stop actual sex trafficking or protect sex workers. So if prostitution is an unstoppable activity that is relatively dangerous, do you make it more illegal or make it more legal? If you drive it underground, it just makes it harder for people to get help. If you regulate the shit out of it, maybe some of the danger goes away.
Then put a system in place that will help the people that need it. Bring things into the light only makes society safer. Less drug dealers fighting on the streets, less likey for John's to beat the shit out of tricks, more medical and psychological care for people who need it. Kill curiosity in a safe way, and all of a sudden it has less hold over you. By holding websites liable they at least, for the time being, hinder that flow of activity.
Plenty of experts and social scientists spoke out against the shut down precisely because it makes it more difficult to catch these criminals by driving them under ground or onto websites outside the US. It basically sounds like the consensus among sex trafficking experts is that this will exacerbate the problem, not help it. Here to save the day! Welcome Firechat and Mastodon. The community just needs to start using these plataforms by announcement in places like here. Let me explain how to use these things.
Firechat is a communicator that is totally descentralized. It can communicate phone to phone using regular networking like wifi or your data plan.
But also you can turn that stuff off and just talk to the locals using Bluetooth. I know, it's crazy! Like if you go to a club, you can just post, I'm here and talk to those users who are close by.
There is a local channel just for that purpose. It's not a clone. It basically works by having a login to an instance. There are videos, links images and sounds.
It's federalized, but it can also be localized. Like there can be one or fifty for San Diego, another 20 for Los Angeles. Or to you could like get together with a mini group and just toot to them all day. No one else in the middle do long as you can have one of your friends leave his computer turned on all day for this Anyway, there go Google these two things and see if you can use them. It is a bummer to loose CL, had a lot of good times through it.
I am in MI, my best alternative so far has been local classifieds like classopia. We are currently working on pvssy. Everything had to be pre selected questions and answers to comply with the new laws in the US.
Anyway the website is still under construction but we are making progress daily. If you like it please post and spread the word.
Less than a minute. The funny part is Facebook and Twitter are both in violation of sesta. There are literally ten of thousands of escort ads all over both websites. The moral of my story is be careful with a molestation victim who engages in incest with her 3 brothers. Maybe the bipolar and skitzo was caused by that.
Now please tell me your opinion! Fetlife is more like Facebook of sex, not really a POF for sex. Fetlife is really confusing, poorly designed, and they do a horrendous job at a personals section. Not really about hooking up with people.
And there's a much wider acceptance of various non-monogamous configurations and understandings. Not that I approve, but it sure as hell is popular! All of that makes it a great place to find sex partners. If you are willing to meet up with someone in a semi-public place and get to know them in person.
Very very poor substitute, but it covers many of the same areas of interest potentially. Definitely more social network than it is dating network and it's set up that way. It's only the US where the personals are gone. Pick a city and just start posting, others will follow along. Canada's personal section is now gone as well. Craigslist deleted the personals sections for all countries now. Side effect of their servers being in California I imagine.
Personal ads are gone worldwide on CL. Their lawyers are probably telling them that ads in Asia or Africa open them to prosecution because the US law is written so broadly. We could, but then it would infringe on Canadians looking for a good time. And good luck letting everyone in California know to look in the same section.
Give it time to fix issues and for others to migrate over. Unfortunately, backpage is also closed. I think the best option could be Casualx: I hope Craigslist can be back soon. Might as well just use Tinder or POF. At least you can do more than flip through pictures and profiles for free with those. I tried many posts on doublelist as alternative of craigslist, they never approved my ads. Maybe they are approving their personal post ads only. I got the same bullshit. Takes like to review then it says it was removed for violating guidelines.
I see folks straught up nudes and talk about drug use in slang terms but my simple text based ads get removed. I dont get ir either. Moreover the ads are moderated someone checks that users and ads are not fake so the most of the ads are real.
I call 'BS' on your 'not fake' statement. I just looked at their Casual Encounters area, W4M, and nearly all of the 'women' there are 'bots or pros. Those that I looked up all had area codes that didn't match the STATE that the purported post was from, so they're 'bots or pros that are out of town on 'the circuit'. After the CL personals section is closed, I tried to find some other sites to replace it.
I found out that the CasualX app and the doublelist. You may try it. And the another craiglist site backpage. Be always careful when using such free ad post sites.
It all about the content. Hopefully well see something with an active user base fill the hole soon. Like CL this one is free to post and read - not a scam site like most the others. Just looks like it needs more people to start using it. For past few months, since I am using few of those sites I can see rapid growing of posted ads in personal sections: That means that people slowly "switching" from CL to other sites It's new so doesn't have ads in most areas, but if you want to see it become what cl used to be, go post an ad to get it started!
That's gonna be one socially exhausted poster! This closing of Craigslist personals is a victory to all the good people that got backstabbed by their significant other with their help. Guess you should have treated her better, or let her explore her deviant side. Now the rest of us deviants in happy, successful relationships get to suffer. You just keep telling yourself that. One day karma will pay you a visit.
By sounds of it you clearly cheat. Open mind seams to mean open legs to a lot of people now a days. I hope she got what she needed since you apparently make it all about you. Maybe your next lover can teach you how to please them and be less selfish? I don't think that's fair to him. While I don't agree with his original post since cl is just a tool to meet people and there are MANY others that accomplish the same goal. If she wanted to cheat, she would have cheated whether Craigslist was there or not.
But to say that it is all his fault essentially and completely ignoring the fact that he PROBABLY didn't know that is wife was messing around behind his back is disingenuous.
Imagine if a girl was cheated on and some dude said "oh you should have treated your man better and been better at pleasing him. Lol she was gonna cheat no matter what. They cheat because they are unhappy in their marriage. Not cuz horny dudes are easy to find online.
Yeah and me and my wife use it to have fun. We've met other married couples that want the same thing we do and we have a lot of fun on the site. So no, it's not all cheaters and you have zero grounds for a lawsuit. If you want a site that you can just hookup with girls or guys on, then try intimatepersonals....